Hello.

I'm kristine anthis, PhD, Founder of IFS Dating & Matchmaking.

As a certified matchmaker, IFIO couples therapist, and IFS individual therapist, I bring a level of psychological insight to matchmaking that most people seeking a partner simply don't have the professional training to apply on their own.

I work differently: I look at whether what someone says they want and value actually aligns with how they behave once a real connection is in front of them — because that gap is usually where dating goes wrong, not the list itself.

For example, I help you understand why the same pattern keeps repeating once you're there — the same doubts, the same second-guessing, the same person in a different body.

That's the piece I add: I conduct parts-focused vetting before an introduction, and I share honest post-date feedback from the other person with you — the kind of read you wouldn't get on your own.

Building enough trust for that kind of honesty is what makes the process actually work, and it's worth more than one more introduction on its own.

My services are for singles who want to better notice the parts of themselves before, during, and after dates — as well as in new relationships.

My Story

After helping so many disconnected and conflicted clients via IFS and IFIO Couples Therapy, I began to wonder how I could avert such from the beginning of couples’ lives.

I founded IFS Dating & Matchmaking to help people prevent future relationship struggles — and the painful consequences of such on their emotional well-being, their finances, their health, their families, their communities, etc.

Who I Am

I am a mother, lesbian, and artist. Outside of helping others, I'm fond of being with family and friends, foraging for black licorice, and devouring detective novels.