Services

With IFS Dating & Matchmaking, I help you have better relationships with yourself — so you can enjoy better relationships with others.

Clinical Strategy & Matchmaking, kristine anthis, PhD

IFS Guest List

Free

The IFS Guest List is my confidential registry for individuals who want to explore being potentially matched with my IFS Matchmaking clients.

Being "on the list" ensures I review your profile after I first consider my current IFS Matchmaking clients to match with another IFS Matchmaking client.

I would then be in touch if you are a potential match with an IFS Matchmaking client. The guest list is the first and most direct way to gain initial visibility within my professional network.

IFS Relational Wealth Blueprint

$250

The IFS Relationship Relational Wealth Blueprint is an opportunity for us to transform how you may be getting in your own way before, during, or after dates - into showing up with confidence, clarity, and ease.

The IFS Relational Wealth Blueprint helps you do this by creating a solid foundation for you, via mapping the floor plan of your internal system of parts to ensure your future relationship is built on a foundation of clarity, not old patterns.

Unlike dating coaching, we build the relationship within you, so you can sustain an emotionally and financially compatible relationship with a partner. Here we are co-architects. Together, we map the floor plan of your internal system to ensure your future relationship is built on a foundation of clarity, not old patterns. Each 45 minute session helps you find clarity on your system of parts who may get in the way of dating, build relationships with those parts so you can speak for them rather from them, which increases your likelihood of your unmet needs being met by a compatible partner.

The IFS Relational Wealth Blueprint is a proprietary methodology based on my experiences as an IFIO Couples Therapist and IFS Individual Therapist, via assessments and subsequent transformation of your inner system of parts, including yet not limited to, the money scripts and other limiting beliefs with which your parts may have restricted your relationship opportunities. Until now.

The Blueprint replaces the exhausting noise of second-guessing with a quiet, decisive clarity. You gain the emotional freedom to walk away from what is “almost right”—making room for a partnership that finally feels like a sanctuary, not a negotiation.
— IFS Relational Wealth Blueprint Client experience
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IFS Matchmaking Consultation

$300

The IFS Matchmaking Consultation is an opportunity for you to ask questions, feel really heard about your relationship history, your current struggles, what success would feel like for you, as well your needs and wants in a relationship going forward, so you can truly be relationship-ready when meeting potential partners.

During the 45 minute consultation, I can help you identify patterns (such as getting in your own way on dates) as well as help you show up differently from now on, and with a plan. If we agree the IFS Matchmaking service is right for you, we can then explore which package is best for you.

The IFS Matchmaking service packages are for 3 months, 6 months, or 12 months, guarantee one date per month at a minimum, as well as two meetings with me per month, such as a prep call before a date, and a post-date call to help you process the experience.

The post-date calls also include me providing feedback from the other person — that which you would not have on your own — so you can learn from information that you wouldn’t otherwise have when dating on your own.

Additionally, the IFS Matchmaking service packages also include me curating the schedule and venue of the dates, based on your mutual preferences, and the two of us subsequently creating an action plan for going forward — based on your date experiences that we discuss on our post-date calls.

The IFS Matchmaking service offers greater confidentiality, is safer (I conduct background checks, and I meet the other person before considering them for you), as well as less aggravating and time-consuming than dating apps, and is a more personally tailored approach to meeting potential compatible partners.

With the IFS Matchmaking service, I am your matchmaker, personal guide throughout the process, support person who can help you see all that you offer when your confidence is down, match publicist, date concierge, pre-date mentor, post-date confidante, and consultant for what’s next — as well as a person who truly cares and wants the best for you.

We provide a highly discreet, boutique experience for high-achieving singles. By acting as your dedicated curator, we handle the intensive vetting and screening process so you can focus on genuine connection with the other person — and within yourself. Every introduction is rooted in deep emotional and financial alignment, ensuring your time is spent with individuals who share your lifestyle and values.

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IFS Relationship Coaching

$275 per session

Once I match you and your beloved, I am here should you need continued support in building your emotional home together on solid ground.

And my experiences as an IFIO Couples Therapist has shown me again and again that couples wait too long to seek help, so that when they do, they are already entrenched in painful dynamics that can take time to unravel and come together — so that you can then talk and listen to each other differently.

This IFS Relationship Coaching Service can help stave off emotional and financial difficulties later on:

  • Learn how to communicate emotional and financial issues before they fester and create more problems

  • Identity your parts’ money scripts, and their degree of flexibility, to avert financial incompatibility

  • Prevent the loss of sparks

  • Clarify if and how your mutual needs are being met

  • Notice and respond to bids for connection

  • Better consider 'time and place' when you offer bids for connection

  • Identify your mutual parts becoming stuck in conflict

  • Learn how to nip that conflict in the bud before you become stuck in "that thing we do" and couples therapy is needed

  • Regulate your parts’ nervous systems when they become activated with your partner

  • Practice resolving conflict in a Self-led way for greater long-term relationship success

  • Discuss how a repair is different from an apology, and practice the former before it becomes necessary

The $275 fee is for a one-time only 45-minute meeting, yet package discounts for periodic check-in meetings or regular meetings are available if those better meet your needs.