Services
IFS Dating & Matchmaking helps you have better relationships with yourself — so you can have better relationships with others.
IFS Dating Pool
Free
This is a free opportunity to be potentially matched with one of my current or future IFS Matchmaking clients.
To enter the IFS Dating Pool, please complete a profile via the link at the button below, and I will contact you if you may be a match for an IFS Matchmaking client.
Once you complete the form, if you would like me to know more about you and your specific relationship needs — in-depth beyond the basic about you — you are welcome to schedule an IFS Matchmaking Consultation as well.
That way, I will have met you and have you on the forefront of my mind when I am recruiting and vetting matches for paid IFS Matchmaking clients.
IFS Dating App Assist
$200 per session
Need a second pair of eyes to reflect back to you how you, and your parts, are showing up on dating apps?
For example:
Are you providing Self-led clarity to others regarding who is a good match for you?
What you and your parts need in a relationship?
Are you making sure to state what you are offering to others as well—and not just who you want?
Need help articulating these vital pieces of your profile?
Are you also needing guidance on Self-led app usage and interacting with others, online and offline, as well as content?
This IFS Dating App Assist service provides as much or as little of these supports in one 45-minute session. You can book without working with me in the IFS Dating Coaching Service package, yet if you are working with me in that service package, it is already included.
IFS Dating Coaching
$250 per session
Needing the guiding light of Self energy (yours and mine) to elevate your dating wings? Self-led dating starts here. IFS Dating & Matchmaking: Dating Coaching is where the magic begins.
In our first session, we start:
Clarifying your relationship history, patterns, personal values, and goals
Understanding your scripts (including, but not limited to dating scripts and money scripts)
Identifying your parts and your dating parts
Learning all of your parts' attachment styles (we often tend to have more than one attachment style)
Discovering what activates your parts in general and what activates your parts in dating
Identifying which part(s) inside lead in writing your dating profile, communicating with potential dates, going out on dates, and following or not following up
More importantly, we will begin to explore:
What you and your parts REALLY need in a partner
What compatibility truly is and what this means for your parts
What your parts need from you to show up being more Self-led in dating
Practice speaking for—rather than from—your parts in your dating experiences
This is a one-time 45-minute session, yet I offer discounted packages after our first meeting, so that you can become relationship ready when meeting people, on your own and/or via my matchmaking service.
IFS Matchmaking Consultation
$350 per session
In the IFS Matchmaking Service, I will:
Personally prepare you for being Self-led when meeting potential matches via weekly meetings
Regularly role play to help prepare you to pivot toward your parts in the moment if they become activated before, during, and after the date
Personally recruit and vet potential matches for you, including background checks
Find out if a potential match is interested in you and when they would be available to meet you
Curate the scheduling of your date based on your mutual preferences
Meet with you to process post-date what came up for you on the date
Provide you with feedback from the other person which I discuss with you so you can learn from info you would not have dating on your own
Co-create an action plan for going forward that we develop
With the IFS Matchmaking Service, I am your matchmaker, personal guide throughout the process, cheerleader when your confidence is down, match publicist, date concierge, pre-date mentor, post-date confidante and consultant for what's next, as well as a person who truly cares and wants the best for you.
For those who join the free IFS Dating Pool, this IFS Matchmaking Consultation is also a great opportunity for me to get know you better, learn about your specific needs in relationships, and have you on the forefront of my mind when I am recruiting and vetting matches for paid clients.
IFS Relationship Coaching
$300 per session
My experience as an IFIO Couples Therapist has shown me again and again that couples wait too long to seek help, so that when they do, they are already entrenched in painful dynamics that can take time to unravel and come together differently.
If both of you agree support is better sooner rather than later, I'm available to meet with you together.
This IFS Relationship Coaching Service can help:
Prevent the loss of sparks
Clarify if and how your mutual needs are being met
Notice and respond to bids for connection
Better consider 'time and place' when you offer bids for connection
Identify your mutual parts becoming stuck in conflict
Learn how to nip that conflict in the bud before you become stuck in "that thing we do" and couples therapy is needed
Practice resolving conflict in a Self-led way for greater long-term relationship success
Discuss how a repair is different from an apology, and practice the former before it becomes necessary
The $300 fee is for a one-time only 45-minute meeting, yet package discounts for periodic check-in meetings or regular meetings if those better meet your needs.