Why Traditional Matchmaking Can Fail: The "See-Saw" Effect

A traditional matchmaker will ask you the essential questions: your relationship history, your lifestyle, your financial resources, and your core values. This information is vital, but it only covers the surface.

As an IFS-Informed Matchmaker, I look deeper. I ask about your internal polarizations.

If you have an internal "see-saw" going on—where one part of you yearns for the deep connection of marriage while another part is terrified of losing your independence—you aren't just "undecided." You are in a state of internal conflict.

When you are polarized like this, you aren't relationship-ready. In fact, if your ideal match appeared tomorrow, your protective parts would likely sabotage the connection to "save" you from the perceived threat. Let’s resolve the internal conflict first.

Are you ready to stop the internal tug-of-war?

Before you look for "The One," make sure you aren't fighting yourself. If you’re ready to move from internal conflict to internal alignment, I can help you prepare your system for the partnership you actually want.

Contact me to set up a an IFS Matchmaking Consultation. Let’s make sure all your parts are on board for your next great love.