Kristine Anthis, Ph.D. 4/9/26 Kristine Anthis, Ph.D. 4/9/26

Why "Kindness" Isn't Enough: What I Actually Look for in a Match

In the world of Internal Family Systems (IFS), what looks like kindness on the surface is often a People-Pleasing Manager. This part of a person is working overtime to be "nice" to keep the peace or gain approval.

The problem? That People-Pleaser is almost always polarized with a Resentful or Angry part.

Kristine Anthis, Ph.D. 4/9/26 Kristine Anthis, Ph.D. 4/9/26

Controversial Opinion: Your "Instant Spark" Might Be a Red Flag

In Internal Family Systems (IFS), that "hit" of instant attraction is often just two wounded Exile parts recognizing one another.

Kristine Anthis, Ph.D. 4/9/26 Kristine Anthis, Ph.D. 4/9/26

Why Traditional Matchmaking Can Fail: The "See-Saw" Effect

Before you look for "The One," make sure you aren't fighting yourself. If you’re ready to move from internal conflict to internal alignment, I can help you prepare your system for the partnership you actually want.